Nancy Ellis is a wife, mom of two little ones, a successful businesswoman and a Small Group Leader. She is transparent, real and one of the most encouraging women I know. Her passion to lead in love in every area of life is contagious as she helps women of all ages embrace God’s love for them! – Pastor Cindy Grasso
As I prepare for an interview or the first day back to the gym, my inter dialogue is a mess:
“The other applicant is smarter than me.”
“I will never be as skinny or fit as she is.”
“That mom really has it all together.”
Have you done that?
Why do we build up our enemies and opponents while simultaneously tearing down ourselves?
As I walked into that interview or saddled upon the spin bike, one revelation was consistent: The anticipation is always worse than the situation at hand. I always “psych myself out”.
My “self-talk” had me enslaved by my fears. That psych is the devil poking holes in my identity. As women, we are not the only ones who do this. It is human nature to have self-doubt and forget where our strength and abilities come from.
I am sure all of you have heard the childhood Bible story about David and Goliath. Last year I read it with fresh eyes and learned so much about my own self-talk.
First, the Israelite’s psyched themselves out too. Look at how descriptive they were with their opponent’s abilities:
A champion named Goliath, who was from Gath, came out of the Philistine camp. His height was six cubits and a span (9 feet 9 inches). He had a bronze helmet on his head and wore a coat of scale armor of bronze weighing five thousand shekels (125 lbs.); on his legs, he wore bronze greaves, and a bronze javelin was slung on his back. His spear shaft was like a weaver’s rod, and its iron point weighed six hundred shekels (15 lbs.). His shield-bearer went ahead of him. – 1 Samuel 17: 4 -7 NIV
On the other hand, David was a handsome young man, a boy, the youngest of Jesse’s sons. He was not a warrior but a shepherd and courier sent to feed his older brothers who were fighting in the war. Yet, that is not how David identified himself. Instead, he focused on the following:
Your servant has killed both the lion and the bear; this uncircumcised Philistine will be like one of them because he has defied the armies of the living God. The Lord who rescued me from the paw of the lion and the paw of the bear will rescue me from the hand of this Philistine.” – 1 Samuel 17: 36-37 NIV
Then, it gets really good. Others tried to enable him as Saul gave him his tunic, coat of armor, bronze helmet and sword. But trying to be something you are not, never works either. David was wise to say: “I cannot go in these,” he said to Saul, “because I am not used to them.” So he took them off. -1 Samuel 17: 39 NIV
And then, he used what he had. He used what God already had given him: 5 smooth stones from the stream and the Name of the Lord!
Lastly, right before this epic battle, David did one last important thing: he proclaimed the goal, focused on the prize and gave the glory to God!
David said to the Philistine, “You come against me with sword and spear and javelin, but I come against you in the name of the Lord Almighty, the God of the armies of Israel, whom you have defied. This day the Lord will deliver you into my hands, and I’ll strike you down and cut off your head. This very day I will give the carcasses of the Philistine army to the birds and the wild animals, and the whole world will know that there is a God in Israel. All those gathered here will know that it is not by sword or spear that the Lord saves; for the battle is the Lord’s, and he will give all of you into our hands.” -1 Samuel 17: 45- 47 NIV
David inspires us to accept our challenges without fear as if they are a child’s game we are fully confident in. David could have focused on Goliath’s size just like all the other Israelites did. Yet, size does not matter and does not determine what is possible for you.
The only thing that determines what’s possible for you is YOU, your mindset and your beliefs.
- Do you believe that you are the daughter of the King?
- Do you believe you possess the armor of God?
- Do you believe the living God is always with you in the form of the Holy Spirit?
If so, here are a few tips inspired by David:
- Be bigger than your fears and do it anyway.
- Believe in what’s possible with God’s abilities not your own.
- Focus on the gifts, talents, and resources you do have! Make use of what you have, to get what you want.
- Don’t overlook or underestimate those gifts God has entrusted in you. Every little stone you have has a purpose.
- Visualize the end goal and speak it into existence with confidence. Then give God the glory.
My sisters, I pray that your self-talk shifts from an identity filled with holes to a proclamation of what you are capable of because of Jesus Christ.
You are unstoppable!